Two young women in Jazmina Barrera’s novel Cross Stitch (2021; Trans. Christina MacSweeney) find a list of the books their friend had planned to read and the copies of them she had gathered, after she has died. They “divvy up the books and tear the reading list in two. We agree to swap when we’ve read everything on our halves.”
This year I decided to be more deliberate about reading in remembrance, and planned for November and December; I made a list—pulled some from my shelves (Paula had been waiting longest) and placed some orders. And I expanded to include not only book-friends, a long-time habit, but also authors who have died this year.
Here’s a glimpse: three book-friends and seven writers. Some today, the rest tomorrow: then I’ll look back on last year’s reading and ahead to next year’s plans.
Isabel Allende’s Paula (1994) has been in my stack since my friend M gave it to me nearly two decades ago. This mother-daughter story—written by Isabel while her daughter was in a coma—seemed overwhelmingly sad. “…I trusted those people in white; I handed over my daughter without hesitation. It isn’t possible to go back in time. I must not keep looking back, yet I can’t stop doing it, it’s an obsession.” But, as M protested, there is also joy in looking back. To memories of Isabel’s Uncle Pablo, for instance: “a brooding, solitary young man with dark skin, passionate eyes, flashing teeth, and stiff black hair he combed straight back” who was “never without his overcoat with huge pockets in which he hid books he stole from public libraries and the homes of friends.” He taught her to read beneath the bedcovers, and convinced her that “in the dark the characters escaped and roamed through the house”. (Translated by Margaret Sayers Peden)
M and I didn’t always enjoy the same books—she had no time for “our” Canadian writers (“too provincial”)—but we bonded over Pym, Brookner, and the three Penelopes. She had many favourites but was always willing to try a new writer whose worldview appealed to her on a talk-show or international radio: open-minded ‘til the end.


Elizabeth Strout’s The Burgess Boys (2013) is the fourth of her books I’ve read since my friend B died: three rereads and this, a fresh, read. Strout reminds me of Carol Shields for her use of detail, of Louise Erdrich for her cross-book universe, and of Julia Glass for the value placed on comfort and connection. She possesses remarkable authority in knowing just what to say and how, using both long phrases and fragments in dialogue, so that we imagine she has collected every word as an eavesdropper and onlooker. “‘So you remember the Burgess father?’ I had asked her this before. We did this kind of thing, repeated the stuff we knew.” Even a simple description offers a granule of information that we can use to understand her characters and their relationships. Her characters are always believable and often unlikeable at times (which adds to their credibility), and I’m convinced she is always writing about grief and mourning, one way or another. The Burgess Boys opens with a woman packing her suitcase, but almost immediately an act of violence derails holiday plans when a nephew’s accused of a hate-crime.
B anticipated books by her favourite writers with verve but was just as enthusiastic about delving into a fresh backlist. She was quick to share which she thought best suited for my taste—everything from novels about slavery and Indigenous residential schools, to cosy mysteries and pageturners—and we both loved Strout’s debut.
The book I ordered with my friend M in mind, a collection of works by Chava Rosenfarb, was backordered the year that we’d discussed rereading it together so, when I saw it relisted this year, I was excited; for weeks I received updates about a shipping delay, and it seemed to magnify the space where our shared reading once resided. When my second order was cancelled, I ordered Letters from the Afterlife, her correspondence with Zenia Larsson instead (edited by CR’s daughter Goldie Morgentaler and published this year). The letters are written after the women have settled in Canada and Sweden respectively, and the first one is dated December 1945; I imagined that CR’s view from her window would have been something like mine, even eighty years after she wrote it. Both women published fiction, so there’s talk of their craft and pursuits of publication alongside daily life. Some of these letters were previously published in Swedish in 1972. This read will linger well into January and will probably comprise the first of the non-fiction I’ll read this year, with Bron’s #ReadingNonFiction2026 in mind. (Translated by Krzysztof Majer and Slyvia Soderlind)
Whenever I come across news of fiction originally published in Yiddish but recently translated into English, I wish I could email M about them. He loyally followed the new work that appears on Words Without Borders, but was just as dedicated to reading western canonical classics, the longer the better. Quite a few books on my shelves are there because he insisted.


Zoë Wicomb (b. 1948) died on October 13th this year (Joburg Review of Books obituary), which finally prompted me to read her 1987 collection of linked stories You Can’t Get Lost in Cape Town. As #420 in the Virago Modern Classics series, it’s been nestled on my shelf for years; now I would like to read her more recent novel from 2020, Still Life (a fictionalised biography of Thomas Pringle, about one colonial Englishman’s impact on poetry in South Africa). Most of the stories circle around Frieda (I thought of Tsitsi Dangarembga’s Nervous Conditions) and how her reading (Thomas Hardy is huge) and writing bring her closer to her home and, simultaneously, farther away. Blurbed by Toni Morrison and reviewed by Bharati Mukherjee, Wicomb told stories often overlooked in the publishing industry, and also like those writers, she made thoughtful political choices about not only the content of her stories, but the structure and publishing of them. Not everyone, including the mother in these stories found her work comfortable:
“But you’ve used the real. If I can recognise places and people, so can others, and if you want to play around like that why don’t you have the courage to tell the whole truth? Ask me for stories with neat endings and you won’t have to invent my death? What do you know about things, about people, this place where you were born? About your ancestors who roamed these hills?”
More remembrance reading chatter tomorrow, seeing the “old” year out and welcoming the “new” year in.
I guess I wasn’t reading Allende back in the 90s but I should’ve been. I didn’t realize her daughter went into a coma & passed. Ugh. Her memoir Paula must be so sad. Was it really due to a medical error? ugh. I have read The Burgess Boys … back in 2013 apparently. I like Strout’s books — she writes pretty conversationally. And Letters From the Afterlife looks good. What a correspondence I’m sure. thx for these.
I was reading her, I loooooved House of the Spirits, only I avoided the memoir. She doesn’t write much about the medical details, but it sounds like one of those situations where her daughter expressed very specific desires and her family tried to support her position but the staff made decisions to the contrary and almost immediately the situation became irreversible. Do you feel like Strout’s books all kind of blur together? I’ve read them with chunks of time between, but had I not, I can imagine them just being one epic story all inter-mingled in my mind!
Lovely post, Marcie. I’m sorry about your cherished friends who have passed on.
Burgess Boys is one of the Strout novels I haven’t gotten to yet. I’m intrigued by Letters From the Afterlife.
The books keep the friendship alive in a strange but beautiful way: I’m grateful for that.
It just never appealed to me, but it was just as good as her others.
I love letters, but sometimes only want to read one or two, other times binge…
Too much to comment on, but I like the idea of remembrance reading. Most of mine would relate to my mum because she looms large in my reading life. I have books of hers I kept in our downsize because she had them for as long as I can remember and I’ve not read them yet. These include Paul Gallico, Jerome K Jerome, Dickens and Henry Handel Richardson.
Zoë Wicomb … I’ve never heard of her. I’ve not kept up either Virago for a long time but clearly I should have.
Finally I enjoyed your description of Strout and her style – and how and why it works in terms of language and characterisation. Spot on!
Oh and I forgot to mention, Paula, which I read a long time ago. I think it’s the only Allende I’ve read, but I did like it. I’m pretty sure I read it around the time I read Joan Didion’s The year of magical thinking. Both were powerful and unforgettable books, though I think over time I have forgotten Paula a bit more than Didion! My daughter loved Allende’s early books, but then she went a bit “genre” didn’t she?
Wow, that would have been quite the combo. Devastating! (I’ve not read the Didion; I think I like the idea of her more than I like her writing, although I understand why it’s important.)
It sounds like your daughter and I have the same Allende favourites. I didn’t mind the heavy-on-story novels like, say, Zorro (which I’ve listened to a couple times, actually) which felt more like genre fiction, and I ended up liking The Japanese Lover so much more than I expected, but I just have never felt quite the same thrill as with House of the Spirits (and the others in that trilogy).
I’ve kept books like that too, and they were part of the motivation for me to shift towards backlisted reading, to create a space in which I could read them. I have two Gallicos on my shelves: The Three Lives of Thomasina as well as The Silent Meow (but I suspect what you have isn’t cat-ish). Which Dickens do you have in your stack? I have quite a few unread.
I remember how much you loved Strout’s OK and I’m happy you think my description apt. The Burgess Boys was, like her others, sad in many ways, and yet, somehow, she manages to hold me close enough as a reader, that I can’t bear to leave the story unread, to not know how things will turn out for these people. Not characters, but people.
No, not cat-ish. I am a dog-ish person!
The Dickens I next want to read are Pickwick Papers and Our mutual friend. Someone in our reading group suggested we do a Dickens as our classic (but I’ve forgotten which one – it was neither of those). Noone wanted to do him really, not because we don’t like him but because most of us have read a bit of him and we’d rather branch out in our classics. As it turns out this year’s classic is an author I’ve read a few of before also, but she’s a woman so I was happy to read another!!
Remembrance reading, what a lovely idea.
Thanks, Emma! <3
This is such a nice idea, and what a way to honour our friends who have passed. I have quite a few girlfriends at the library who I swap book recommendations with (not quite a book club, but close enough) so this idea of reading to remember them is a lovely one. I’m at the age where I don’t have many friends or contemporaries who have passed, but I know this will change, so I’m going to keep this idea in the back of mind for when it does become a reality – hopefully not for awhile tho!
So you’re looking forward to their deaths so that you can read books in memory of them? Phew, your mind really does circle in dark corners! That’s what comes of your steady literary diet of thrillers, eh?
They’re older but, yes, it’s true, as time marches on, we do have the opportunity to connect with more people and, so, the risk of losing more. It amazes me, just how often I think of them, when browsing at the library or in a shop: I’m constantly noting certain titles or authors, sometimes borrowing or buying them, as though I could just “catch them up” when we next chatted.
This is a lovely idea. I read Paula years ago and found it very moving. Reading in remembrance of friends is a wonderful tribute.
I think next year I’ll chose only new books that they’ve “missed”, instead of known favourites: we’ll see.
Remembrance reading, what a lovely idea! I read Paula way back about the time it came out. So very sad.
It is undeniably sad, but I expected it to be through-and-through sad, and there was a lot more to it (fortunately).
I’m not a big Allende fan. I find her very middle of the road.
Just the other day I picked up Strout’s Anything is Possible (I was looking for Stead). I’ve left it with Milly for now but I might get to it later in the month.
One of my daughters – the one with MS – gets through a lot of audiobooks. She has a South African boyfriend and she has asked me to recommend books set there. I’m currently reading The Golddiggers by Zimbabwean Sue Nyathi but hopefully we can do better than that.
I see what you mean: not all of her books (mid-to-later career) have swept me away either. But I have turned to her a few times when I wanted a good story and that’s worked.
I just noticed I have a Little-Free-Library copy of AisP on a certain shelf near that sneaky copy of Evelina, but I haven’t read it yet.
Is Deborah Levy South African? (Hmmm, only by birth, apparently.) My next thought was Malla Nunn, which is pretty funny, as it seems she’s from Perth?
Your daughter might like Shift by Irma Gold ?
Thanks Bron. It’s by a woman so that’s a start. I gave her a book by a guy for xmas (Trent Dalton) and she said she won’t read it. I gave Milly the last Kerry Greenwood. They live next door to each other, I told them to swap.