Louise Erdrich and Barbara Kingsolver, Amy Tan and Elizabeth Strout: these are some of the writers whose stories about parenting, and being parented, stand out in my mind. Claudia Dey’s fiction could be included here, too, although her stories spiral around alienation and abandonment—the ways in which those who could be the central figures in our lives inhabit other roles, either from the beginning or over time.
When her debut, Stunt, was published, I was intrigued by the Toronto Island setting. Before moving to the city, I’d been fascinated by Gwen MacEwen’s time there (witnessed through Rosemary Sullivan’s biography Shadowmaker—outstanding) and, after moving, the Islands became a favourite place. I was working closely with a woman who lived on Ward Island, which added a layer of interest, and Dey’s story about a fractured family wasn’t far off my experience as a child of divorce.
Stunt, overnight, comes into a different understanding of how people connect (and don’t): her father has left and her mother was never really there. It’s appropriate that Stunt’s story is told in clear, concise prose: each word distinct, as though in relief, against a backdrop of abandonment. But Stunt didn’t take hold of my imagination and I returned my library copy unfinished: two-thirds or three-quarters read. (Maybe I planned to reborrow and finish, but I didn’t.)
Stunt’s nine when her father leaves, but the story is more concerned with the impact of that absence on her later life and the impact of her mother’s priorities—which don’t include the kind of parenting that Stunt needs, especially when her father’s just gone poof.
All of this is also true of Claudia Dey’s new novel, Daughter (2023), except that Mona’s father never goes very far, her mother is a different kind of unavailable, and readers don’t witness Mona’s childhood directly.
“Paul deserted me when I was eleven, and I had modelled my view of myself in response to that desertion. And Paul kept leaving me over and over again.”
What Mona means is that she keeps believing he’s capable of being a different kind of father, and Paul keeps being the same kind of father he’s always been.
There’s no sentimentality or heavy emotion; she writes (the novel’s divided into five parts—classic drama) in such spare prose that we must read between the lines to feel Mona’s profound sense of loss, sparked by recent events but always spiralling back to these early days of being disregarded.
Paul is a writer. (Stunt’s father felt a vocational pull too—there’s no question that the wider world values these men, regardless of their capacity to nurture relationships in their lives.) “When your father exits the frame, you start to think, I must not be enough.”
He’s famous for a book he’s written called Daughter, but Mona isn’t his only daughter, and there are differing opinions about which daughter inspired the book. As things unfold, there are also differing takes on how that book was written (during the time he was married to Mona’s mother). And he expresses differing ideas about its inspiration. (And ideas about where the responsibility lies for the turn his career took afterwards.)
“Paul apologizes to me from behind a fictional father,” Mona thinks, at one point, during a conversation. But readers know that Paul isn’t apologising. He’s saying something and Mona’s desperate to hear another thing.
Readers recognise the same inconsistencies that Mona observes (for instance, about the genesis of Daughter); there’s no question that explanations Paul offers on one day differ from explanations offered on another day. But readers also recognise that what Mona imagines hearing when Paul speaks doesn’t reside in his words. He does not say what she hears.
Mona has good relationships in this book, so the story isn’t wholly devastating. Her partner has complicated feelings about Paul, too, after he doesn’t receive genuine advice or support about his own artistic leanings; he supports Mona in her struggle to connect with Paul and reassures her that there’s a massive gap between Paul’s private and public personas. And it’s particularly moving when her best friend (since girlhood), Ani, supports her in a tough time: “And then she said, you don’t have to say anything, but just stay on the phone.”
Here, readers hear about the inaccessible side of Mona. The part where Mona doesn’t say anything. Ani knows this about her, articulates it, leaves a space for it even. Dey’s characters often aren’t capable of expressing the very elements that could acclimatise readers to these stories. And because the narrative is structured so simply, readers aren’t immediately alerted to the fact that there’s something more beneath the surface. (This might be what I missed in her first novel. I also missed what some readers consider elements of comedy and whimsy—apparently also present in her second novel, Heartbreaker, too, and her playwriting.)
Similarly, Mona doesn’t articulate the growth she experiences over the course of the novel (titled, you’ll have noticed, the same as her father’s published novel). Perhaps it’s spoilery to admit that there is growth.
But the sense of loss and sorrow is unrelenting: other family relationships also being thorny (multiple perspectives revealing refracted layers of hurt and disappointment), an assault in Mona’s past (which further ignites her yearning for a relationship with a trustworthy man), as well as Mona’s traumatic experience of divorce, and the ongoing—and ineffective—attempts to navigate this territory after everyone’s reached adulthood.
It’s all so heavy that I feel it’s essential to suggest there’s some hope at the end.
“When I was a girl, his voice was a net and it held me,” Mona says. She wants us to believe that, at least, she now understands what release looks like.
I planned to write about two other books today, one I finished (the collection Chrysalis by Anuja Varghese) and one I’ve not (I thought I’d finish on the weekend, but Erin Bow’s Simon Sort of Says captured my attention instead—thanks to Rebecca U. for this rec). But it took longer than expected to write about Daughter.
The 2024 longlist transforms into a shortlist tomorrow, but that doesn’t influence my reading; longlists (and submission lists) intrigue me most when it comes to prizelists.
[…] for Heartbreaker doesn’t fit my memory of the book at all. I came to it via a discussion of another Dey book in Buried in Print. The setting is a remote community in Canada’s north, a cult whose leader has died but which […]
This is a beautiful review of a challenging book. The one thing I’ll say here is that the emotions and images that came up for me while reading it are still right there at the surface, which tells me how well it’s written.
Aww, thanks. But how interesting that you’ve felt an emotional response to the novel, but I feel like that’s the very element that was missing. Maybe deliberately so, but I’m not certain. I mean, some of the things that happen are sad (especially the scene that her best friend is just quiet in, for her, on the other end of the phone) but I did not feel that sorrow, either through her or for her, in the novel, but rather I felt it outside of the novel, a real-world empathy for that/those situations. That could be just me, of course.
Thanks so much for this thoughtful take! I’ve added Daughter to my to-read list on Goodreads; I generally enjoy books about messy family dynamics. The authors you listed are so interesting – I enjoyed the Poisonwood Bible when I read it 11 years ago as a seventeen-year-old, but I recently read Demon Copperhead and did not like it much at all. I also didn’t love Louise Erdrich’s Plague of Doves when I read it recently but maybe I’ll enjoy one of her other books. Happy reading!
Plague of Doves is not one of my favourite Erdrich novels either, but The Poisonwood Bible remains my favourite Kingsolver (haven’t read Demon Copperhead yet, but I find retelilngs very interesting, like a microcosm of how readers/writers relate to and respond to books). Yeah, I read a lot of fiction about “messy family dynamics” too. Can’t figure out why. /shrugs /winks /grins Thanks for stopping be!
I’ve never read Claudia Dey, but I’ve always admired her from afar, and heard wonderful things. People have been raving about this Daughter book! I support her in other ways however, I purchased a beautiful purple coat from her company Horses Atelier, and to this day, remains one of my most treasured possessions. I hope to pass it onto my daughter one day, it’s classic enough that I could, and she could wear it too 🙂
You raise an excellent point; Dey’s privilege provides a consistent backdrop to her fiction, and I think that’s one of the elements that distances me from her work. She’s writing about characters who are privileged too, so it’s not like she gets anything wrong (the depiction of povery and economic instability in A History of Burning doesn’t work for me at all), but you can tell her characters are all wearing blouses that cost $395, while I’m reading about them wearing T-shirts I’ve owned for longer than other people own houses. I’m not sure you’d like her fiction either; you’re probably better to stick with her fashions!
I don’t think it’s spoilery (great word even if autocorrect doesn’t like it) to suggest there’s growth. It just suggests the direction of the trajectory and I think that’s ok.
I was interested in your opening sentence about how Louise Erdrich and Barbara Kingsolver, Amy Tan and Elizabeth Strout come to your mind when you think about parenting and being parented. What would come to my mind? Austen of course. Parenting (from parents and substitute parents) is really at the bottom of all her novels. I haven’t read enough Erdrich and still haven’t read Stroud for them to come to mind, but I can certainly see Tan and Kingsolver filling the bill. I could name a few Aussie novels that have been powerful for me about this, but the most powerful one in terms of the impact of abandonment is Elizabeth Harrower’s The watchtower. I can’t remember though whether the protagonists ever realise this.
The examples you give of the writing here are, again, excellent. And yes, I did notice the father’s book title was the same!
Autocorrect is still trying to set me straight on that one too, and I bet I’ve typed it a hundred times by now. heheh
Being spoilerphobic myself, I worry about saying too much about how a book develops. But so many of us are struggling to read hard stories right now, when we are also witnessing the hard stories in our news feeds, that Dey’s inherited legacy of not-enough-ness might not make it into anyone’s stack if it seemed entirely hopeless.
Ohhh, The Watchtower is an excellent reference, with parents either absent or so distanced that they might as well be. Interestingly, there is a lot of clear emotion in Harrower’s story though and, while she does leave some things unsaid/unseen, the scene-building guides readers with authority so that you are consistently aware of the power dynamics (and, also, when/how they impact her married life). It’s more character driven too (Dey’s is more conceptual at times) so it would draw in a different set of readers for that quality too.
It’s lovely to see you go deep with one book/author — something you and I often don’t do because we’re caught up in trying to write about All The Books we’ve been reading! I don’t know how I got the impression that this was a mother/daughter story; those probably appeal to me more than father/daughter, but no matter. Now that this novel has advanced to the shortlist, I’m sure many will find your thoughts helpful. From your description I’m reminded of The Wren, The Wren by Anne Enright. Is that one you know?
I’ve not done as much of that in the past couple of years, partly because more than half of BIPs visitors aren’t Canadian, and the titles aren’t necessarily available (readily, or not at all), but it seemed to make sense for Daughter. You’re right: it is very much about her relationships with her step-mother and her mother, too, but the narrator sees it as being more about her father. If her mother had been more available (she was clearly struggling with her own concerns, as was true of the mom in the first book), everything would have played out differently. Is the connection with Enright thematic then? I’ve only read two of her earlier novels, but I did borrow a copy of TWTW in early March: should I push it up the stack?
LE, BK, AT, ES – what’s going on? I’ve read them all! CD, back to normal, never heard of her, which I will rectify by buying Heartbreaker (2018) [I might even do the world a favour and write a review of it, rather than the various half dozen lines of exclamation points which Dey’s site linked me to].
Back to Daughter: I had a distant, rather than absent, father, in fact, as a country school teacher and inspector, he mostly worked from home. But fiction about poor child-father relationships still resonate.
Hahaha, and right there at the opening, too! There are authors who’ve taken on the theme for a single book but these have prioritised these relationships/situatons over multiple books, and their names would be more recognisable with their careers so well established over time, I suppose. Nearly classic. Heheh She has definitely highlighted the top-tier reviews. It surprised me to see how much international attention she’s received for her work actually. There is actually much more distance than absence in her stories, although the absence is more obvious, so you might find her rather interesting.
I finished Heartbreaker an hour or two ago, and now I’m stuck in a parking bay (waiting for permission to enter a mine). The novel started really well, the story of a 15 year old in a remote community. The language as you say, is spare, reminding me of Sissy Spacek narrating in Badlands (my favourite movie of all time). But it goes downhill in the second and third parts, becoming the mother’s story, told by her dog, and then a young man’s story – who’s my father. Let’s say 2 stars out of 5.
I would have seen Badlands–I love Sissy Spacek movies–but I don’t remember it, so perhaps time to rewatch! Interesting that you didn’t find a connection to Heartbreaker in the end but felt it started strongly (given I left Stunt unfinished). The idea of multiple perspectives in troubled families really appeals to me, but I guess it rests in credibility; if you don’t really believe in the characters, the variety of perspectives could leave you feeling even more distanced, as though you’re not just marginalised by one character but several!